No Shame in Online Dating

When the wonders of online dating sites started many years ago, they were a delight for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdos of all sorts.

That’s no longer the case. All the shame is gone in online dating. Online dating has gone worldwide and it’s acceptable and expected. Online dating has become a primary tool for single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let’s face it…we’re all busy guys. We just simply don’t have the time or the money to date every night while we look for the “one”. You go through hundreds of profiles a month for less money than you can in one night out, thus, saving time and money.

Why not use a useful tool such as the Internet for our social and personal lives? You could find the love of your life. At the very least you’ll meet some interesting people and make some new friends. It’s simple to get started. All you need is a computer and an Internet connection, and then you’ll need to search for online dating sites that meet your needs. They are a lot and they are varied.

Join a few of them. Then write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start sending messages to people that look interesting to you and wait for responses. That’s all there is to it…that and patience.

Be Honest

When joining an online dating service, you’re looking for a girl that you may like…maybe come to love. That girl is looking for the same thing you are. What you’re not looking for is a girl who would like you as a best friend. In order to find the right one for you, you need to be honest about yourself when writing your online profile, during the dating process and more.

The best way to start your profile is to analyze your past relationship (s). What was right? What was wrong? What made you really like the last girl? Which didn’t? Don’t think that because you hated that your last girl was totally self-involved that she couldn’t see past anything else but herself, you’ll be able to oversee that quality this time. You won’t.

If you’re not 6’0” with a six-pack, don’t say you are. If you’re a bar tender, don’t say you’re a model with a six-figure income. If you’re 30 going on 40, don’t claim to be 20 something.

Remember, you’re here to find the girl who will like you for who you really are. If you’ve lied in your profile, the first meeting will remove all her doubt that you’re a liar…and more then likely a cheat.

Once you’ve found a girl that you think is the one for you, cancel your online dating membership. After all, you both know that online dating services are there for those who are looking…not those who have found or have been found.

Asking the Right Questions

You’ve joined a couple of dating sites and written a killer profile. You’ve uploaded a really good picture and now you are going to chat with some users. What now? How do you start picking out those who have real potential and those who don’t have any at all? You need to find out something about who this woman really is and not just who she says she is. It’d be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”…. but they don’t, and you can’t just ask them direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid and how to impress this woman.

After you’re past the small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen attentively to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men.

Next ask her, “What do you think about online dating?” Now she’ll tell you if she’s had any bad experiences dating online and help you to avoid making the same mistakes.

Now for the most important one…”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she blames only the guy, you should move on to the next prospect and if she takes all the blame, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was mutual or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you awareness and make you more confident when you meet the women for the first time.

A Man's Secret to Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a swan takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it may work. Women are, in general, scared of meeting a man that she has been talking with online. They’ve only heard about all the scary things that can happen. I have to say, they have a right to be extremely careful. That’s not only wise but also vital. So what’s a nice guy suppose to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You’re just a nice guy looking for “the” girl that’s right for you.

You have to be patient. Don’t push her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable chatting with you. Don’t rush her into meeting face-to-face. She’ll think you’re desperate or a pervert. Patience.

Be honest about what you look like and your job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deception. Eventually she’ll find out the truth anyway and there you’re back to square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post pictures of yourself doing everyday activities, your hobbies and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you’re dating a women in the real world she wouldn’t just see your face.

Once the conversation has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a public place, during the daytime and that she brings a friend. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen plenty of pictures of you. The only thing is to make her feel safe meeting you.